Now, you’re back at square one in the quest for marriage, and it feels lonelier than square one, and further from the altar, because of all you’ve spent and lost.No one begins dating someone hoping to break it off someday.In fact, the research also pointed out that the amount of Americans attending church regularly has dropped somewhat in the last years. More and more Christian singles are joining dating websites to find a spiritually supportive partnership. This difficulty is enhanced by the fact that not all church-going Americans are suitable date material: in truth, many of those who do attend church are already in relationships, married or in significantly different age brackets.- Rebecca Vandemark, Christian blogger Rebecca Vandemark (33) is one Christian single who knows first hand the difficulties involved with faith-based dating.It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later). Casual or purposeless dating has no benefit for Christians. We are designed to know why we do stuff and where we are going. Now, please, please, please don’t be a freakish weirdo. It involves sharing personal struggles and vulnerability. If you believe God is preparing you for foreign missions, is it important the person you marry shares this passion? If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage? Corrie Ten Boom Truly Jesus is the great need of our souls. Hudson Taylor In our sad condition our only consolation is the expectancy of another life. Packer The national anthem of hell is, "I Did It My Way." Peter Kreeft God is honored by large, difficult, and impossible requests when we ask, seek, knock, and trust our loving Father always to answer for our good. John Knox Heaven is more than a destination; it is a motivation. Moody We need never refrain from asking anything of God simply on the ground that we think it impossible. Phillips The Cross of Christ may have overcome evil, but it did not overcome unfairness. Philip Yancey Ole Hallesby God will mend a broken heart if you give Him all the pieces.
The trajectory of lives and eternities are in the balance. Laying out guidelines for dating as followers of Jesus will alter lives by keeping people out of toxic and unhealthy relationships (and ultimately marriages). “The one” says you need to find the perfect person. The beauty of marriage is God sustains you despite your flaws. The shells of a shotgun are stuffed with tiny round balls. You are asked to go from a mentality that says “End a relationship as soon as difficulty arises,” to one that says, “Don’t end the relationship regardless of the difficulty that arises.” That’s a tough switch to flip.
Indeed, Rebecca, who says that “my partner’s faith is the most important aspect when considering who I date,” thinks that part of the challenge of Christian dating is that the “church is not equipped to handle singles over the age of twenty-five.” Yet, it is possible to find romantic success on the Christian dating scene, no matter what age or romantic background you are from.
You can meet someone who shares your passion for God’s word and His love - you just have to look in the right place.
And, for many Americans, that right place is online, with dating sites like Elite Singles.
- Janelle Paris, social anthropologist at Messiah College Indeed, a surprisingly large percentage of Christian singles are turning to the internet to find a long-term, spiritually-connected partner.